Ratette (she/her)
Decadent young millenial. Permanently anxious. The revolution will be won in thigh highs and fluffy jumpers ✊️ ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷ 🟨⬜️🟪⬛
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Okay cool thanks for the clarification 👍
As in e.g. the waves of feminism going from first wave for the bourgeois, 2nd wave for the academics, third wave to include black and lesbian women and 4th(ish) to include all women. Feminism adapted to meet the needs and develop as a movement for equality in patriarchal society but this is rarely understood through a Liberal lens, that’s what we are referring to?
Fucking clown energy. There a bunch of fucking communists on here who need to go touch grass before they de-brain themselves with their own stupidity.
I’m done, it’s fucking exhausting.
“Uwu we can never stop explaining comrade”
Balls to that, take your contextual factors and choke on it.
My existence isn’t a debate and my rights aren’t a conversation “we can have”.
Either you engage with reality or you conform to the same Liberal oppression and false space you claim to oppose.
I’m not going to argue 2+2=4 when some reactionary has already convinced themselves it’s 5.
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Why are our rights a debate comrade? Why are our literal right to exist an after thought to those who claim to oppose inequality?!
I’m sad and tired and it hurts and I just want to be happy for once 😔
I’ll take that mantel 👑 because at this point all I do is fucking is log in, see crap, get triggered and rant.
You’d think I was on lemmy sometimes. I want to help others grow but I’m not a wizard, I can’t make greenery out of toxic sand.
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"Have you tried explaining it to us through polite and considered discourse?
We won’t listen to you but as an oppressed minority its technically your responsibility to educate us oppressors as we are far too busy oppressing to do it ourselves."
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Imagine running someone over and then telling them to ring the ambulance because only they can explain the situation properly 🤣
Right, but I don’t stop explaining.
I just don’t do it to walls.
This is one of those situations where I shouldn’t have to put myself into a traumatising engagement to explain to someone who doesn’t want to listen in the first place.
I’m not achieving anything and in this situation it’s clear that even if I did the person won’t listen or trust me on it.
I’ve dropped enough walls of text in the past and on this thread to articulate why their position is untenable as have others.
This wasn’t a “someone explain it” scenario.
It was “this is my position and I’m not changing it”.
Explaining isn’t going to help right now and only make me feel worse and any other affected party who has to sit and engage or read the back and forth.
Allies can pick up the slack in these situations but I’d not expect anyone to just piss their time away on someone who isn’t ready or willing to listen and learn.
There’s enough comments and explanations in this thread and one user even offered sources and reading material.
To maintain this “uwu we must never stop explaining” veneer just feels the same energy as libs telling people to keep voting and trust the system will work. It won’t and when the material evidence suggests that explaining won’t do any good then I don’t think I or anyone else is at fault for writing someone off as a lost cause because they chose to take that position when they dropped their stupid rant.
I feel you mean well in your comments but my existence because of homophobia and transphobia is fundamentally affected and negative as a result of the aforementioned views and takes.
I have to be aware of people in public and put safety behaviours and actions in place to protect myself from people who share those views whether that be from physical assault or verbal.
There’s genuinely places I can’t go at certain times because I could be hurt as a result of bigotry.
Having to deal with that daily and thats not even including all the systemic bigotry and discrimination and then to have people erase my oppression or act like it’s not a big deal when it’s purportrated and enabled by those same people is enough to make you sick with anger.
Imagine if white people went to globally southern countries “well you haven’t considered our contextual factors in why we support colonialism and I can’t help but feel you as the colonised need to explain more to help us understand despite us making fully clear we won’t listen” lmao.
We’d all be flipping out over white chauvinism, coloniser mindsets and racism so why am I as a queer person expected to do the same to a homophobe?
The point is we don’t waste our time with coloniser libs if they aren’t engaging in good faith but there’s an expectation on queer people to confront their oppressors constantly and explain to them why they are wrong and that feels hypocritical that we are expected by the majority to kindly tolerate their bigotry and address it daily when the majority can’t even be bothered to meet us half way.
To support this comment I think it’s fair to say I’ve dropped a few tankie walls of text in my time here and I’d do again dammit if it meant genuine progress and education on issues that affect me.
If people came in good faith and asked “I don’t get this please help me understand” provided I wasn’t exhausted I’d engage because that benefits both parties and I absolutely take contextual factors into account in these discussions.
The above however was not that, it was fueled by anger and reactionaryism and not the sort of person who wants to listen and understand but someone who’s decided that’s how it be and I’m not defending my existence to someone who’s already decided its irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.
Awwwwh 🫂 it’s just one of those fears that is kinda totally rational. Why would you be okay having metal pierce your body?
For me it’s the fact you can feel it go in and I got told a horror story of someone tensing their arm muscle and trapping the needle inside one time as a kid so now that haunts me 😱
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